Yeah, yeah, I know it has been a while...been busy, sorry!

I've been out of town, been busy with other things, and still dealing with some health issues.  Have my plate full in the next few weeks with Doctors, insurance stuff, cars, the room addition, kids, Christmas and...and...and.  But I was doing some reading including Hotwife Allie and of course cuckold husband.  I must admit I love "cuckold husband" and I enjoy the photos and of course his stories and most of all his thoughts.

But I was thinking to myself...What does it mean to be a "cuckold"?  I feel that there are a few basic types of cuckolds:  The first is the easy one and the type that most people will think of as a "cuckold"...a man that has a wife that has sex with other men... a real cheating wife.  The wife does not have permission to have sex with other men and most of the time she tries to keep it a secret...very negative connotation!  Not a good thing but it does happen to lead a couple into swinging or into other things like her being a hotwife.  I would not like this and I don't think most "cuckolds" here would like it either.

The next basic concept is of course a wife that has sex with other men with or without her husband's permission.  This is more of a term for people that are not into any sort of different sexual lifestyle. With this simple definition all of us, poly, swingers, hotwife husbands and self identified cuckolds are cuckolds.  To most people this is a negative term, very negative!  If your wife has sex outside of her marriage you are a cuckold.  Simple.  I feel that this is more of a dictionary term and is too broad for use here.

The next definition gets a little stickier.  Hang around any swinger site and most hotwife sites and you will find that swingers and hotwife hubbies DO NOT feel that they are cuckolds.  In a lot of those sites "cuckold" is a fighting word.  Some people that have wives that date and go out and have sex with other men with and  without hubby along will really get upset at the idea that they are cuckolds.  Some sites have a cuckold side and the hotwife hubbies feel quite superior to the cuckolds...

So we have a wife that goes out and has sex with other men, not as a "couple" as in swinging, but has sex with other men, some date, some have hubby watching, some have hubby joining in and so there is a different style for every couple that play...but let me assure you that these men do not feel that they are "cuckolds"!

So now we get into the last group, the guys like me that feel that we are "cuckolds".  Our wives have sex with other men...blah, blah, blah...just like the group of "hotwife hubbies" above with the varieties that they have with a few more variations but...and this is the big BUT...we identify ourselves as "cuckolds"!  Now I admit that here you will find the sissy cuckolds, and we branch off into some mild or more than mild S and M and B and D but you can have those and not be a cuckold so while you for the most part will not find panty wearing sissys and cock cages and so on in the hotwife hubby area you do find that in in our cuckold area but...it doesn't mean you have to wear panties or what ever and a lot of us are talented guys and not at all sissies or un-manly away from our "cuckold" games.

I enjoy my wife fucking other men but for us it adds a lot for her to have long term lovers as well as just fucking other men.  I love watching but I also love waiting for her at home.  She enjoys dating...and we both love her enjoying semi-public sex with her lovers and she enjoys public affection with her lovers.  I've sat across from my wife and her lover knowing she is full of his come, his hand between her legs playing with her pussy as they touch and kiss...as we eat dinner in a "nice" place.  The feelings of lust and a bit of envy, I don't get to play with her pussy in a restaurant any more and to know his hand is there...or to have him make me taste her on his fingers or to have him have my wife hand me her thong that she has taken off for him...pushes my buttons!  Of course she enjoys bareback sex with her lovers and she loves me eating her her lover comes in her or on her, cleaning up his cream pies and she has had me lick her while her lover was in her...she teases me about my tongue on her lover's cock.

We both enjoy her being with a positive take charge type of man, an alpha male that enjoys my wife being his lover in front of me.  Teasing me a bit about it is great and reminding me in various ways that my wife is his while they are together adds to my excitement as well as my wife's pleasure.  We are not into pain but my wife feels her lover is in charge and then she gets to tell me what to do and I am there (if I am there) to help them have fun.

Having had a few married lovers in my past I know how I felt when I was coming in another man's wife, when you fill her with your sperm you are claiming his wife as yours...  And when I heard about unknowing husbands eating my lover after I had come in her...what a thrill.  I've got a pretty good idea what might be going through some of Brandi's lover's minds when they see Brandi shoving my head between her legs and hear her tell me to eat their sperm as she tells me how much she enjoyed her time with them.

For her lover to take charge, tell me to clean her, to ask me how his come tastes on my wife's breasts, to tease me about how his come tastes in my wife's pussy or to have me wait on them...adds to the fun, the funny mixture of pain and pleasure.  We have two possible lovers that plan on having me clean them if they make the cut...they have to turn Brandi on and she can be selective.  But she loves pleasing her lover and the right lover will have her telling me to clean her lover's cock.  She will enjoy it for the pleasure it gives her lover and I will submit to it since it will put me in my place...in my mind as well as give me pleasure in the way I get pleasure from pleasing my wife and her lover.

So I'd be interested in hearing how the readers here fit into cuckold or hotwife things and if they are active or have been active.

A few pictures of me, bedenied has run a few in the past of him so I thought I would join in...the before trimming since Brandi wants me to trim and shave again.  So here goes.  Ah yes, a pair of pink panties to remind me that her lover is the alpha male.

Must have been lost some where....

1. Have you ever shared sleeping accommodations with someone of the without anything steamy happening? (Opposite sex for breeders, same sex for homosexuals).

Yes.  Kind of boring.  However with Kate it was weeks of partially clad kissing and touching in bed before she was naked and we were having sex, it took a while but it made the sex when we finally had it so much hotter.

2. Have you eve streaked, flashed, or otherwise partially or totally exposed yourself in public before (or after) an informal, unofficial gathering of people?

Yes

3. Have you had dates with multiple people in the same weekend (or consecutive nights or the same night) while not all of your dates were aware of your actions?

Yes.  Actually at various times I would have a "date" and then meet my girlfriend.  Risky stuff.

4. What is the most "romantic" you have ever gotten in a movie theater?

A little mutual touching to orgasm.

5. Have you ever had sex when you knew a non-participating adult was watching?

We have had sex where I was over nine tenths sure someone was watching as in hot tubs where we could be seen at the beach, in cars and a few other places.  But in a swinger's bar people were gathered around us watching, no doubt there.  Kate and I had sex in a hotel with the drapes open, sliding glass doors.  We heard noises at the window and then we went out and had sex in and out of the pool.

Bonus (as in optional): If you could say anything you wanted anonymously to anyone, without identifying that person, what would you say?

To an old girlfriend:  What the heck happened?

To my wife:  What the heck happened.

A handful of women...About my lust (and love) for them...and how I respect them as people.

Been a while, a long while....

Not much really going on.  We met a guy and he was not to Brandi's taste, so nothing happened.  I don't see the problem but for some reason she isn't turned on by him and that is it.  If she isn't turned on for what ever reason it pretty much says it all.

I've been spending more time with medical type people.  I have had two head injuries this year and after the second one things don't seem to be getting better.  No idea why and it has me and the Doctors a bit puzzled since so far nothing of any significance has been found.  Brandi did get a look inside one sinus and while it has a problem, it isn't a problem that would cause the other problems...  Boring stuff, eh?

So nothing happening since we don't have a current lover for Brandi and no lover on the horizon.  I've plenty of other things to do and Brandi has been quite busy with work.  Our son has been learning to drive and for a while it wasn't going well.  But he seems to have turned a corner and progress is being made.  So actually I have not had my mind on sex and Brandi hasn't been interested in sex either.  But I stop in at Ultimate Cuckold and see that I have some mail there. 

I used to be pretty active there but when it seemed like we were not going to be doing much if anything I quit stopping in.  So the mail is from E, a guy from California that was coming up in October.  Brandi didn't call him back and we didn't find a place for him to stay so he made other plans, and I think it was smart of him to do that.  However he had written asking what the heck had happened.

I had to say I had no idea what went wrong or what happened.  I had thought it was going well and that Brandi and E would be talking and setting up plans.  I told him I was very sorry and that I had no idea what was going on and that I felt that Brandi had been quite rude in not responding to him.  The plot thickens.

I tell Brandi that E had dropped a note and was still interested...  Much to my surprise she was excited and delighted that I had heard from E...  I drop a note telling E what she had told me and E calls me today to assure me that he still wanted to be my wife's lover and cuckold me.

E goes into great detail some of the things he wants to explore.  He has read some of my postings at Ultimate Cuckold and feels that he will have a great time with us since a lot of my interests and some of the other things he reads at UC are right up his alley and he can't wait to explore them.

It felt funny but arousing, and I am sure E was also aroused to hear E tell me about how he wants to not just fuck my wife but to have her as a lover.  To date her, to spend the night with her.  He wants me there helping at times...he went into detail about me cleaning my wife of his come and how he looks forward to touching, caressing, flirting and kissing my wife in public including us sitting down to dinner in a nice place and E playing with my wife's pussy under the table.  I've never been so forward in identifying myself as a cuckold to one of Brandi's potential lovers and it felt strange, hot and of course more than a bit submissive.  I get that cuckold conflict.  Brandi will be quite busy the next few days due to work but the first part of next week I will have to take some pictures of Brandi for E to show her interest...  We shall see what happens.

A Long Post But a Bit of History: A Step In Making Me Cuckold.

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Sorry, no real news....At PIR the last three days and beat after getting home!

The Field Meet and the vintage racing was a lot of fun.  Talked to some of the drivers and that was fun and met a guy that built an Ambros...an old special and it was also Peyote's 50th birthday and of course Peyote was built by the same guy that designed the Ambros.

Not a heck of lot of beautiful women at the track, Brandi had to work.  The rather intense rain at times might have had some women choosing not to dress sexy...wonder why?   Some neat cars and some fun racing...to watch, I know I don't have the money to race and I am not sure I have the nerve to.  I'd be one of those guys that are there just to cruise around and get some track time.  I think Brandi would love to try some racing...I'd try to talk her into Formula V since I like the open wheel racers.   Most the people I had dealings with were nice but there were a few jerks, real jerks.

Brandi says she is still interested in meeting E this month when he is up, I don't know if she has talked to him in the past week or so.  Not sure what is up with R either.

We have acupuncture tomorrow, the both of us, after the past three days my back is shot, popping pain pills like they are some cheap breath mint...about as much good as they are doing too!  I don't see anyway I could try to hold down a real job, a little work over three days and it is agony and so much stuff in my system I'm sure I would fail a drug test.  Take care of your back!

We have a Canon video camera, one that uses the tape and has a memory card, still learning how to use it but today I figured out that while you are taping you can also still take still shots on the memory card.  Need to find the cable to see just what I filmed.

When Brandi starts playing around I plan to take video and of course some still shots and this camera just might make it pretty easy.  Now if I can just teach her how to use it for some dates when I am not there...that will be hot.  She did tape a few sessions with L, the guy she was playing as a cheating housewife and with J, a guy that really turned her on, he was great at "taking" her, being in charge and using her the way she wanted to be used.  I never met him either but I did talk to him a few times on the phone and they did call me one time when they were out...well out in a hotel room.  That was interesting and fun.

I will try to write more tomorrow or Wednesday.  Just too tired tonight.

Very Late Too Much Information and a few pictures to tease.

1. If you could have monumental sex where would it be (i.e. on Lincoln's lap, the stairwell of the Statute of Liberty)?

Wow, most of those places seem uncomfortable.  Maybe the Monument (Vertical Runway) in Vientiane Laos.  I guess it isn't a monument but I always wanted to take some nude pictures of first Kate and then Brandi at Fort Point in San Francisco but it never happened, the pictures would of course been followed by sex.

2. Have you ever "played" with your food (i.e. a blowjob under booth #9 at Denny's, finger banging by candlelight at Spago)?

Yes, finger play at various restaurants and fucked at a bar, but it tended to a swinger clientele so I don't think that really counts. Brandi once sat across from me next to her lover as we dined in a fairly nice restaurant.and he fondled my wife to an orgasm and then had me taste my wife on his fingers...hot and a bit humiliating.

One of the more interesting times happened in Fresno.  We were hosting a pre-dinner get together for a Swinger's magazine for the people that entered their writing contest.  About thirty or so people, some regulars from other years.  One couple we were very fond of, but we had not played with them.  I was wearing evening dress and she was dressed party sexy.  She was sitting in a single seat armchair and I had been chatting on and off with her as I did other host stuff.  We started flirting and kissing.  And a bit more than flirting.  I told her that she looked good enough to eat...she laughed.

As the others stood around and sat around and talked and pretended nothing was happening I slowly and completely undressed this beautiful woman and ate her to a couple of intense orgasms.  Brandi was sitting on her husband's lap and they were the only ones that didn't pretend to not be watching us.  After she had enough we went and took a shower together...and she spent the rest of the time that the others were there wearing just a towel, looked great on her. I was a bit busy as it was happening but my wife and her husband both said it was so weird, this woman being undressed completely and then eaten to several orgasms by a man in evening dress and no one said a word or did anything.  The writer contest people tended to be writers and dreamers not people that did things...

3. Have you ever had sex in motion (i.e. the lavatory on Virgin Air, the back seat of your Chevy Suburban)?

Kate used to give me hand jobs as we drove and I would fondle her, she would soak the seats with her orgasms.  She would also give me an outstanding blowjob now and then.  No blowjobs while driving with Brandi but she used to fondle me and I would fondle her, at one point in our life she was in bra and panties in the day time on drives and naked at night and I would fondle her at night and show her body off to truckers.  It was fun watching her have an orgasm wondering what the truckers thought of my naked wife.

4. Have you ever had sex worthy of a confessional (i.e. a stall in the church bathroom, on the desk in your boss's office)? 

Had sex with Brandi at my shared office, think we were seen, that was where we first had sex.  Had sex at Kate's parents house several times.  Brandi had sex with a new lover at the local airport ramp...standing up in an part of the ramp used by a company owned by a whacko right wing Republican, she liked that idea.  

5. Have you ever had sex under the stars (i.e. in the alley behind Scores Gentleman's Club, the roof of your South Beach condo)?

Beaches at night and in the day time, in cars, by cars, in the yard, half way in the car in the yard or by the side of the road, a little ally way sex a few times and watched Brandi enjoy a lover twice in her pussy and some blowjobs by her one night at the Fresno Zoo...yes people were around.

Bonus: What's your favorite place (of all places) to have sex (i.e. The Bunny Ranch, Las Vegas)?

Romantic beach front hotels?  A place that Brandi has spent time with a lover.  A B and B in Nong Kai or Luang Prabang/  Any place that makes my wife hot.The wet spot from Brandi and her lover?  Semi-public in a swinger bar or a sex friendly spot.

A selection of pictures to keep your interest and that are a bit on topic.  H, D, E, and P.  In cars and outdoors and in public.  I love the smile that Brandi has on her face as she stands next to H, her first lover as we are at a Fresno Zoo night.  Fun evening.  A shot of them kissing in the car, B flashing her black panties.  One of H and my wife kissing in our front yard, H wore those black mesh shorts on his way to visit us at Brandi's request and I wasn't home when he got there...so Brandi and her lover were showing me the next day what had happened when H got to our house.  One of my wife and D in  our drive, it is what I saw driving up to our house.  They couldn't wait to get started until I got there.  One of her and P kissing in our car and then out in a park right before we had to go to a hotel.   Then one with Brandi and E kissing in the car on our way to our house after having to attend a club meeting.  We had to stop in a park on the way home since Brandi was getting a little frantic with her need to have E's cock in her. Mobile phone picture, the phone is a POS and it was supposed to be very good for pictures...it isn't!  One that is a bit dark of my wife and D kissing a bit...they did more than kissing a little later.  Just something about seeing your wife kissing another man and seeig another man's hands on your wife!  Something about seeing a man treat your wife as his!

Still working on the story of our first threesome and I'm wondering as filler between now and the time I get that done...I have a few creampie pictures and Brandi loves me eating her after a lover has filled her.  I was chatting with a guy today and he has been with several married women with their husbands there and on dates with just the wife.  He loves seeing his lover's hubby eating his come out of her...he wants to try having her husband clean him as well as cleaning his wife after he fills her.  I'm not sure of my thoughts on that.  I love eating Brandi after her lover but it did feel a bit strange the first few times to do it in front of one of her lovers...but she loves it so much I got over that.  I don't know if I could clean one of her lovers so I think I need to think about it.  I know with a bit of submissive feelings  I admit to, I like to make my wife and her lover happy, but so far that means cleaning Brandi after her lover (she has had me eat her a few times while her lover's cock was in her) and such things as bringing them towels and washcloths and water and drinks...  While I view it as a sign of submission to Brandi's lover I don't know, I can't imagine doing it without Brandi being there so...  But I do love seeing Brandi with a take charge guy that treats her as HIS in front of me and I love that being done in public.  One of the problems we have is finding men that are a bit aggressive and take charge types that enjoy doing that not only  with Brandi when they are out on a date but with my wife when I am along.  Brandi and I both want the right lover to do a little verbal teasing of me, we both view things as she is submissive a bit to her lover and I am submissive a bit to him and then her... 

I'm not really sure how common this is, I've of course had men that we didn't meet (but not for that reason) tell me that it would indeed be part of my duties but I am not sure if they are posers or dreamers or living in a fantasy world.  I was thinking of posting a few creampie pictures and some of me eating Brandi full from her lover and discussion my thoughts on creampies and relationships with lovers and us.

Thoughts, comments, ideas experiences???

TMI? or Wasted Space?

1. Do you have "your" side of the bed? Which side?

In the bed, the left side, at the foot of the bed looking at the head it would be to the viewer's right.  Isn't always that, depends upon how we set up the room.


 2. How old is your pillow and what condition is it in? .

Which one?  Have about four.  Range from a couple of years or more to less than six months.  Have a memory foam one that is great.

3. What is your favorite position to sleep in?

Left side, round pillow between my legs or right side cupped up against Brandi

4. How often do you change your sheets?

Once a week, no set person changes them.

5. What helps you fall asleep when insomnia strikes?

Reading something funny like Patrick McManus

6. Does sex make you sleepy or energized?

Sleepy after a bit depending upon how intense the orgasm is...

7. What is the minimum amount of sleep that you need to be functional the next day.


Four hours but there is a pay back after a couple of days.

Bonus (as in optional):Describe your most vivid dream.

I don't usually have dreams that I recall.  I'd need to think.  After an aircraft incident I had dreams about that a few times...had to declare a "Mayday" and a pilot does not do that casually.  I've had a few erotic dreams that were intense and vivid and not too long ago dreamed about Kate, an old girlfriend.

The pictures.  A cuckold...or a hotwife hubby gets to see their wife enjoying such things and knowing that it is another man that is helping her have that orgasm.  I love the intense feeling (brought on by what seems to me her intense feelings and an outstanding orgasm)  I get from the first picture and I love that little sexy smile to her lover in the second picture.

We have chatted some today to and from acupuncture (works great so far, worth a longer post) and Brandi is still planning on seeing R and E (one at a time) this month so we shall see, eh?