Saturday, December 19, 2009
Yeah, yeah, I know it has been a while...been busy, sorry!
But I was thinking to myself...What does it mean to be a "cuckold"? I feel that there are a few basic types of cuckolds: The first is the easy one and the type that most people will think of as a "cuckold"...a man that has a wife that has sex with other men... a real cheating wife. The wife does not have permission to have sex with other men and most of the time she tries to keep it a secret...very negative connotation! Not a good thing but it does happen to lead a couple into swinging or into other things like her being a hotwife. I would not like this and I don't think most "cuckolds" here would like it either.
The next basic concept is of course a wife that has sex with other men with or without her husband's permission. This is more of a term for people that are not into any sort of different sexual lifestyle. With this simple definition all of us, poly, swingers, hotwife husbands and self identified cuckolds are cuckolds. To most people this is a negative term, very negative! If your wife has sex outside of her marriage you are a cuckold. Simple. I feel that this is more of a dictionary term and is too broad for use here.
The next definition gets a little stickier. Hang around any swinger site and most hotwife sites and you will find that swingers and hotwife hubbies DO NOT feel that they are cuckolds. In a lot of those sites "cuckold" is a fighting word. Some people that have wives that date and go out and have sex with other men with and without hubby along will really get upset at the idea that they are cuckolds. Some sites have a cuckold side and the hotwife hubbies feel quite superior to the cuckolds...
So we have a wife that goes out and has sex with other men, not as a "couple" as in swinging, but has sex with other men, some date, some have hubby watching, some have hubby joining in and so there is a different style for every couple that play...but let me assure you that these men do not feel that they are "cuckolds"!
So now we get into the last group, the guys like me that feel that we are "cuckolds". Our wives have sex with other men...blah, blah, blah...just like the group of "hotwife hubbies" above with the varieties that they have with a few more variations but...and this is the big BUT...we identify ourselves as "cuckolds"! Now I admit that here you will find the sissy cuckolds, and we branch off into some mild or more than mild S and M and B and D but you can have those and not be a cuckold so while you for the most part will not find panty wearing sissys and cock cages and so on in the hotwife hubby area you do find that in in our cuckold area but...it doesn't mean you have to wear panties or what ever and a lot of us are talented guys and not at all sissies or un-manly away from our "cuckold" games.
I enjoy my wife fucking other men but for us it adds a lot for her to have long term lovers as well as just fucking other men. I love watching but I also love waiting for her at home. She enjoys dating...and we both love her enjoying semi-public sex with her lovers and she enjoys public affection with her lovers. I've sat across from my wife and her lover knowing she is full of his come, his hand between her legs playing with her pussy as they touch and kiss...as we eat dinner in a "nice" place. The feelings of lust and a bit of envy, I don't get to play with her pussy in a restaurant any more and to know his hand is there...or to have him make me taste her on his fingers or to have him have my wife hand me her thong that she has taken off for him...pushes my buttons! Of course she enjoys bareback sex with her lovers and she loves me eating her her lover comes in her or on her, cleaning up his cream pies and she has had me lick her while her lover was in her...she teases me about my tongue on her lover's cock.
We both enjoy her being with a positive take charge type of man, an alpha male that enjoys my wife being his lover in front of me. Teasing me a bit about it is great and reminding me in various ways that my wife is his while they are together adds to my excitement as well as my wife's pleasure. We are not into pain but my wife feels her lover is in charge and then she gets to tell me what to do and I am there (if I am there) to help them have fun.
Having had a few married lovers in my past I know how I felt when I was coming in another man's wife, when you fill her with your sperm you are claiming his wife as yours... And when I heard about unknowing husbands eating my lover after I had come in her...what a thrill. I've got a pretty good idea what might be going through some of Brandi's lover's minds when they see Brandi shoving my head between her legs and hear her tell me to eat their sperm as she tells me how much she enjoyed her time with them.
For her lover to take charge, tell me to clean her, to ask me how his come tastes on my wife's breasts, to tease me about how his come tastes in my wife's pussy or to have me wait on them...adds to the fun, the funny mixture of pain and pleasure. We have two possible lovers that plan on having me clean them if they make the cut...they have to turn Brandi on and she can be selective. But she loves pleasing her lover and the right lover will have her telling me to clean her lover's cock. She will enjoy it for the pleasure it gives her lover and I will submit to it since it will put me in my place...in my mind as well as give me pleasure in the way I get pleasure from pleasing my wife and her lover.
So I'd be interested in hearing how the readers here fit into cuckold or hotwife things and if they are active or have been active.